Are Chinese Mothers Superior?

This woman is extremely arrogant and a borderline sociopath. It is one thing to make sure a child puts forth their best effort and that they learn the value of hard work. It is another thing to verbally abuse them when they fail at a task which is forced upon them so that their mother can show what a 'superior' parent she is.
Carl Jung and other prominent psychologists say that the most damaging thing an adult can do to a young child is force to them to practice adult behaviors and exhibit adult emotions at an age where they are developmentally unable to process this sort of behavior. For an example look at all the spastic former child actors.
I have a white friend with a genius IQ who was raised the same way by his mother. As a young child he was forced to study ballet, take piano, play cello, and a multitude of other activities. He became quite intellectually arrogant about his abilities. He skipped into my grade, and joined our advanced Math class and was telling everyone about how he was going to be the smartest person in our grade, too. I distinctly remember everyone in the class turning to him and saying all at once, "shut the fuck up." He had no friends in our grade, and shortly after he became quite depressed. It even got to the point where he had to be put on antidepressants as a 12 year-old because he was threatening to kill himself. While all the overbearing behavior from his mother might have fostered a majority of his young success, it didn't win him friends, teach him social skills, or help him develop proper emotionally.
If you would like a country full of intelligent, but socially worthless and emotionally retarded people, raise your children in the same manner as this Chua witch.

The problem is that everyone thinks their upbringing is the best one, since they turned out so well. So this is difficult to discuss without being partial to your family's way of raising children.

But my favorite example here is Michael Jackson. I'm sure he didn't have playdates and free time as a kid, and he turned out extremely successful. But would you want your kids to turn out like him?

As a people manager in China that has hired dozens of local employees in their 20s, I have seen the end result of Chinese mothering first hand.

While many of the employees brought a strong academic history, most lack creativity and social skills.

These twentysomethings enter the business world woefully prepared for life as an adult. They lack knowledge on how to dress, care for their personal hygiene, and work together with their colleagues. Why? Because the parents never taught them about real life.

Although the students of Chinese mothers may have straight As on their report card or know how to play the piano, they have no sense of responsibility around the home. I've seen teenagers throw garbage on their home's floor instead of placing it in a trash can. I've watched them leave their food, wet towels, and dirty clothes on the floor. I feel sorry for their future spouses.

And I won't get into how miserable the husbands of these Chinese mothers feel about their marriage...

The comic Bobby Lee was recently on Marc Maron's podcast "WTF", and he talks about growing up with "Asian parenting" and how it really messed him up in ways. Certainly, this style of parenting brings about high achievements with some kids, but for some it works not at all, and for all of them I would guess that they will have some psychological issues that manifest themselves in later life. On the podcast, Bobby Lee went on to talk about the Virginia Tech massacre, where the shooter was a South Korean. He apparently performed well in school and had great grades, but he had obvious psychological problems. The parents, placing so much emphasis on quantifiable success and so little on how the kid was feeling, let him build up to the point of explosion. Of course, this is an extreme example, but you get the point.

http://blog.seattlepi.com/theethicist/archives/235061.asp